Tuesday, May 31, 2011

2 Months

We have officially hit the two month mark on this deployment.  While I wish I could say the time has flown by, that would make me a complete and utter liar.  In reality, these have been the longest two months of my life and time has crept so slowly I sometimes think I have entered some sort of alternative calender.  Even so, it is time behind us and that's all that matters. 

These last 60-ish days have been filled with an incredible highs and lows.  I graduated from medical school, learned of my best friend's pregnancy, and just this weekend watched my big brother stand up and marry his perfect match.  My heart beamed as he said his vows to my new beautiful, smart, and sweet sister.  This same weekend I got to spend time with so much of my family including my little cousins, my lovely grandparents, and my 93-year-old great uncle.

At the same time, there have also been days when I felt like I couldn't get out of bed, days when I spent endless hours in my pajamas watching romantic comedies, and days when nothing stopped the tears.   

Overall, I'm getting through it and every day that passes is another day closer to my love coming home to me.

Here are some 2 month mark deployment lessons & thoughts:

  • Staying busy truly is the key to survival.  Perhaps my lack of things to do has contributed to the snails pace of these last two months. While I'm enjoying my extended staycation, I'm looking forward to residency for this very reason.
  • I can rely on my mil spouse blogger friends for support more than many people I know in the non-internet world.
  • Getting a dog and starting a blog were the two best things that I did for my mental health.
  • I should probably start my husband's car more often than once every 2 months, which reminds me that I need to call AAA. 
  • Red wine doesn't necessarily make you feel better and it might just cause you to write an incredibly long and emotional email to your husband about your entire future together.  Prefacing said email with, "I'm finishing off a bottle of red wine" is clearly advisable.
  • It's really difficult to cook for one person, especially when you lack motivation to go to the grocery store in the first place.  I'm still working on this one. 
  • Extra deployment money doesn't go as far as you think it would, especially when you use giant shopping trips to BJs Wholesale and sending enormous care packages as a form of therapy.
    • A good, long walk outside always helps.
    • Tactfully answering peoples' ridiculous questions about deployment is truly a learned art.
    • I have no idea how anyone had the strength to endure a military deployment before the days of Skype, email, facebook, and every other form of social media available today.
    • There's nothing more vital than the love of family and friends. 

    The most important thing I learned today is that Ben & Jerry's now makes Red Velvet Ice Cream. Try it.


    1. It sounds like you've learned some great lessons. I remember our first deployment and I learned most of these as well. Staying busy is what truly saved me, as well as keeping in touch with him as much as possible. I still hate cooking for one person though. I hope the time picks up for you!

    2. I totally know what you mean about being able to rely on milspouse bloggers for support more than real life people. I don't know what I would do without my bloggie friends!!!

      I am 11 months into this deployment and I STILL haven't figured out how to cook/shop for one. I hope you have better luck than I've had!

      P.S. I won't say your deployment will get easier, but you'll be more...adjusted to it after a few more months. Just keep busy and talk to/email your hubby as much as you can!

    3. I LOVE BEN AND JERRY'S RED VELVET ICE CREAM. Anyway, good luck with the deployment. I don't look forward to my boyfriend's future deployments.

    4. Keeping busy really is the best thing. Residency will keep you busy slash wishing you had more time!

      Also, the red wine thing...oh boy. I wrote so many e-mails after drinking wine. One time I even tried calling the phone card number back when I had TOO much wine. My friends allowed me to do this because they thought it was funny. Fail.

    5. YAY on hitting 2 months. I LOVE that Red Velvet Ice cream. Almost got more today and now I wish I really had...lol

    6. Awh I'm sorry these past couple months have dragged for you:( I love your lessons and thoughts though! Thanks for checking out my blog, I cant wait to read more from ya:)

    7. Love this blog post. No deployment for me yet, just COT separation, but I can totally relate to the red wine, the cooking for one, and the Ben and Jerry's. . . it is what it is. :)


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